Alexander Gray (1856-1940) – His Obituary

Here is a transcription of the obituary for Alexander Gray, date and newspaper unknown. (His mother’s name was Judah Arena, not Irene.)

ALEXANDER GRAY

Our community was saddened to hear of the passing of Alex Gray at his home in Craig, Tuesday, December 31, 1940 at 4pm.
He had a long lingering illness but bore his suffering with patience and fortitude. All that loving hands and hearts and medical skill could do was of no avail.

Alexander Gray was born June 24, 1856, near Gower in Buchanan County, Mo. and attained the age of 84 years, 6 months, and 7 days.

His parents, Franklin and Irene Gray, were pioneers in Buchanan County. Mr. Gray was the fourth child in a family of four boys and one girl. When he was eight years old his parents died, and he and his brother, Simian, were taken into the home of a maternal uncle, Dr. Simian Parrish, then a pioneer physician of Holt County living at his farm home three miles north of Craig.

These little boys were loved and nurtured by their foster parents and given all the advantages they could give their own children.
Mr. Gray grew to manhood in this home, and engaged in farming.

He was married to Rose A. Browning July 18, 1877. His companion passed away Nov. 30, 1938. They established their home on a farm five miles north of Craig and continued to reside in this community until 1912, when they retired from the farm and moved to Craig.

To this union were born four children. Edgar of Craig, Mrs. Allen Bowersox of Reserve, Kans., Miss Erma of the home, and a daughter, Orpha, who died in infancy.

Other survivors are nine grandchildren, fifteen great grandchildren, and one great great grandchild, and a number of nieces and nephews.

Mr. Gray and his wife were charter members of Sharp’s Grove Baptist Church. He was ever loyal and true to his faith and to his church, having held office in the capacity of deacon for more than 35 years. By thrift and industry he had accumulated considerable property in houses and lands. He was also a stockholder in the Bank of Craig.

He was a man of high moral character, sterling qualities and steadfast principles. Ever mindful of the right.
He was devoted to his home and his family, loved and respected by his friends and neighbors. With his passing the family loses a devoted father and grandfather and the community an upright citizen.

Funeral services were conducted in the M. E. Church Friday afternoon at 2:00 o’clock by a former pastor of the Sharp’s Grove Church, Rev. G. A. Puckett of Kingston, Mo., who read an impressive and beautiful discourse of which the theme was “The Christian’s Life, the Faith, and the Final Reward – Eternal Life.” The speaker paid a beautiful tribute to the exemplary daily life of the deceased as he trod the milestones along life’s highway with his fellowmen.

A choir composed of Rev. and Mrs. Earl A. Ogle, Mrs. Fred Walkup and Mr. Horn sang the hymns, “Whispering Hope,” “Sunrise Tomorrow,” and “Shall We Gather at the River,” with Miss Lena Lawrence at the piano. The floral offerings, gifts of friends and relatives, were profuse and beautiful.

The body-bearers were grandsons of the deceased: Dean, Carl, Don, Ralph and Harold Gray and W. H. Cooper.

The great granddaughters bore the flowers: Wilma and Dorothy Griffin, Beatrice Cooper and Clarissa Gray.

The remains were laid tenderly to rest in the I.O.O.F. Cemetery , there to await the Master’s call.

The pains of death have ceased,
Labor and sorrow cease.
And life’s long warfare closed at last.
His soul is found in peace.
Soldier of Christ well done.
Praise be the new employ,
And while eternal ages run,
Rest in the Savior’s joy.

Relatives and friends from a distance were:
Mr. Lon Gray and wife, Mr. Norman Gray and wife, Mr. Ben Moore and wife, Mr. Wyman Gray and wife, Mr. Roy Gray, Bryan Weakley and wife all of Gower.

Charles Williams and wife, Carl Gray and wife, Dean Gray and family, W. H. Cooper and family, Miss Minnie Gray, Mrs. Earl Wing, Jewell Gibson and wife, all of St. Joseph.

Fred Krull and wife, Easton, and O. C. Gray of Omaha, Nebr.

A. E. Bowersox and wife, Misses Anna and Martha Stewart and Mrs. S. B. Stewart of Reserve, Kans.; Mrs. Dan Chaney of Falls City, Neb., George Jones and wife of Horton, Kans., H. H. Browning, S. F. Williams and wife, and Glenn Davis and wife all of Fairfax.

J. L. Browning and wife, M. Browning, Ed Browning, and Mrs. Asa Hollenbeck all of Mound City.

CARD OF THANKS
We wish to thank our many friends, relatives and neighbors for the sympathy and helpfulness shown in the death of our father, also for the flowers; to the choir for the rendition of the beautiful music and for the use of cars.
F. E. Gray and family, Mr. and Mrs. A. E. Bowersox, and Miss Erma Gray

Postcard – Kansas City MO from YMCA Building 1917

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GRAY Alex GRAY Lula Back

Postmarked: 16 March 1917 from Kansas City MO
Addressed to: Mrs. Alex Gray (Lula’s mother), Craig, Mo.

Kansas City, MO
3-16-17
Dear folks:
Got the box
all OK and I am
feeling real well
don’t know when I
can come home. Erma
will be there to-
morrow.

With Love
Lula

Birthday Card – From Thornton & Minor Clinic, Kansas City MO

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I don’t know who the card was sent to, but it was likely either Alexander Gray (1856-1940) or his daughter Lula Gray (1881-1973) because I believe they were both patients there.

Dr. A. J. Maris sent the family a postcard from the Chicago World’s Fair. Lula Gray sent her sister a postcard in 1926 while a patient.

Postcard – Public Bath House, Paseo, Kansas City, MO

BROWNING Rose GRAY Lula Bathhouse Postcard front

BROWNING Rose GRAY Lula Bathhouse Postcard Back

Postmarked: February 9, 1916, Kansas City MO
Addressed to: Mrs. Rose Gray, Craig, MO

Kansas City, Mo. Feb. 9, 1916

Dear Sister:
Just got your letter &
will write to tell you to bring
Pa’s over-coat also his razor
& shaving brush. Don’t know
if you will get this if
you don’t we will have
to send them to him
later. Guess he is a little
better this morning but it
is a very little. I can’t get
down to where your train
comes in so you just come
up with the crowd & I will
be there some place close
to where you come in.
I will stay till Friday.
Ma can get some one to stay
with her to-morrow night.

Lula
(Along the side: “Bring the little razor strap with the string to it.”)

Lula Gray (1881-1973) is writing to her mother Rose Althea Browning Gray (1854-1938) and her sister Bernice Erma Gray (1888-1981) who lived at the family home. Pa is Alexander Gray (1856-1940.)

A history of this bath house can be found here:
http://kcparks.org/park/the-parade-park/

Postcard: To Dear Mother – 1913

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Postmarked: 20 February 1913, Craig MO
To: Mrs. Alex Gray, Gower Mo c/o G. R. Hines

Dear Father and Mother:
Rec’d
your card and will
write
you a line to
let you know we are
getting along fine.
Aunt Han Ball died the
day you went away.
All went up there
that evening. Lester was
better yesterday but haven’t
heard today. How is
everybody. Lula

This postcard is from Lula Gray (1881-1973) in Craig, Missouri to her mother Rose Althea Browning Gray (1854-1938), 65 miles away in Gower, Missouri. Rose is Todd’s 2x Great Grandmother. Lula was 31 when the card was written, and married Allen Bowersox when she was 51.

Because the card was mailed to Mrs. Alex Gray in Gower MO c/o G.R. Hines, I think she was staying with her sister-in-law Sarah Elizabeth Gray Hines (1861-1931), who was married to George Robinson Hines (1856-1941). Alex & Rose Gray lived in Craig with their daughters Lula and Bernice Erma.

I didn’t know who Aunt Han Ball was, but with Missouri Death Records online I found Hannah Ellen Kruson Ball died in nearby Fairfax, Missouri on January 7, 1913. She was the widow of Joseph Louis Ball. Perhaps this is Aunt Han Ball. Does anyone know how she fits into our family tree?

I wonder how they traveled those 65 miles. (My father-in-law Lanny Gray read this and said that the family traveled a lot by train.) I wonder what prompted such a long visit. I wonder who Lester was.